12 Simple Ways To Impress Your Boss (And Everyone Else)

by Nate on June 14, 2009



Just about everyone wants to do great work, look good in the eyes of their boss, and earn the respect of their peers. In my 15-year career I’ve worked at a large number of different companies and held a wide variety of positions. I’ve seen how this works from every angle, so I thought I’d share some thoughts on what’s worked for me and what I’ve learned along the way.

Two things before we get started: First, the theme of ItStartsWith.Us is to focus on ways that we can make a positive impact in the lives of the people around us. I hope that some of these ideas will help you do just that. But please keep in mind that using these tips to try to get ahead at your job isn’t what it’s all about. You’ll start to see a huge benefit when you treat everyone like this, not just the people you want to impress. It took me a while to see, but I now realize that living this way (for others) makes me a better person, and that’s more valuable than any job advancement.

Secondly, I chose the word “simple” in the title because none of these tips are very complicated. They’re easy to understand, and anyone can begin using them immediately. They are not necessarily easy to implement, however. Many of them may require a dramatic shift in the way you act, or the way you think about yourself in relation to other people. I’ve finally accepted the fact that there are no quick fixes out there. If you want to see a big result, you have to be ready to put in some hard work. The good news is, the more time you spend doing these kinds of things, the less it feels like work, and the more if feels like a natural part of who you are. And once you get there, the rest becomes easier, and the rewards start coming in.

So here we go.

  1. Care about people
    I put this one first because it’s the foundation for everything that comes after. Caring about others is an absolute necessity. If you don’t care about them, and you’re only in this for yourself, people will know. They can spot insincerity a mile away. If you’re labeled as insincere, it won’t matter how much you do for everyone; they’ll always be assuming you have an ulterior motive, and you’re just trying to work an angle to come out on top. The only way any of this will work in the long run is if you are truly interested in seeing other people succeed, and you do your best to help them along the way.

    If this doesn’t sound like your cup of tea, you may as well stop reading this article right now – it won’t help you. Do us both a favor and go play some Flash games online (my kids highly recommend Dino Run). But if you do care about people, or at least want to make an honest effort to do so, read on.

  2. Always be honest
    This is the second foundational element. The most valuable resource you have with others is their trust, and it’s much easier to lose than it is to gain. This is a lesson we’ve all learned from childhood on up, yet we continue to tell lies or half-truths to make ourselves look better in certain situations. Don’t do this. Ever.

    If you have a habit of lying about big things, then obviously you have some work to do, and you should get on it. But what I’m mostly talking about here are the small things. For instance, if you mess up with someone, and fail to meet a commitment you promised them, don’t try to make excuses to cover it up. Apologize and ask what you can do to make it right – you’ll be respected for it. Doing anything else will show people that you’re willing to say whatever’s necessary to avoid the consequences of your actions. And if they see you doing that with small things, it’s a solid bet that they assume you do it with big things as well.

    You can sometimes break the rules, but you can never bend the truth. Losing trust is the worst thing that can happen, because it makes all the other things you do nearly worthless in the eyes of others.

  3. Speak your mind
    If you’re always honest, you shouldn’t have much of a problem speaking your mind when the situation warrants. This doesn’t mean you have to talk all the time (I’m one of the quieter guys in most of my meetings) . . . you have to determine when it’s important to talk, and when it’s okay to stay quiet. But if you’re always honest, people will know that when you do speak, you mean what you say.

    Here’s an example. The first time I wrote a big email to the CEO of my large company, it was to criticize him for something he said at an all-company meeting. Since this was my first major interaction with him, I was taking a big risk – and I’m not gonna lie, some of the things I’m talking about doing will sometimes put you at risk. But when you don’t put yourself out there and take a chance, you don’t get a shot at the big payoff.

    Because my CEO is a great guy, he thanked me for my feedback and took it under consideration. The next time I emailed him, it was in high praise of something he did at an all-company meeting. What do you think his first thought was when he saw another email from me with the subject “Feedback?” Probably nothing good. But when he opened it and saw my sincere thanks and appreciation for his recent actions, I’ll bet he realized something: that this guy is not a suckup, and will say what he thinks, no matter what the situation. And that is a valuable relationship to have with your leaders. Going forward, as long as you continue to remain honest and speak your mind, you’ll be building up trust with each interaction.

    One caveat to this point: you must be aware of the situation when speaking your mind. No one likes to be called out in front of their peers, so if you have criticism to give, do it in private, and be sensitive to the feelings of the person you’re talking to, especially if it’s a high-level leader who may not be used to receiving it.

  4. Be respectful – with an edge
    You always need to show the proper respect for anyone, be it your boss, your spouse, your friend, or even a stranger. That’s a given. But when you start giving your boss too much deference, and turn him into a demi-god, it doesn’t help anything. He’s just a person who happens to be in a higher position than you. And if he’s the kind of guy who enjoys it when people suck up to him, he’s probably not the kind of guy you need on your side anyway. I’d rather have the rest of the office backing me up in that situation.

    As a boss, I can tell you that I hate it when people suck up to me. It automatically drops you a few notches on my “trustworthy” list. Why aren’t you trustworthy? Because I can see that you’re willing to compromise your true thoughts and feelings to be viewed in a more positive light. And that tells me that you’re in this for yourself, and I can’t trust you to be someone who will help me or another team member with something that’s important to us.

    When you’re dealing with people who are in a higher position than you, remember that it’s not always what you say, but the intent behind it. I get away with saying a lot of things to senior leaders that other people can’t say. This is because I’ve built up a reputation as someone who always works hard to help others succeed. They know that I’m here to help support them, and if I have something that I really disagree with them about, I’ll be sure to let them know, and not go behind their backs. They trust me, so I can be free to joke around a little more, and have a bit more of an edge than most people, as long as I stay aware of the current environment and don’t overstep any bounds of respect.

  5. Ask for help
    If you don’t know what you’re doing in a certain situation, don’t pretend like you do. Admit your ignorance and ask for help from someone who knows what they’re doing. I see two benefits to doing this. First, it helps you learn something new. Second, and more importantly, it makes someone else feel important. Their interaction with you, where they were able to help you out and feel good about their own knowledge and generosity at the same time, may well be the highlight of their day. Give them that gift, and pay attention to the friendliness and respect you’ll get in return. This is especially true if you’re in a leadership position. Never be too proud to learn from anyone else in the company. In fact, I’ll go so far as to say that there’s always at least one thing you can learn from everyone you meet – so don’t take anyone for granted.
  6. Plan to wing it
    This sounds a bit contradictory, I know. We usually want to control our circumstances as well as we can to make sure everything works out in the best possible way for us. But the fact of the matter is that we’re rarely as in control as we think we are, and occasionally we’re thrown into complete chaos. In fact, we’re quite often judged more on how we handle the curveballs thrown at us, so it’s good to have a plan in place for dealing with them.

    I like to prepare for these situations by practicing once in a while. Take a controlled situation that you’re going into, and resist the urge to plan every detail. Decide that in this instance, you’re going to wing it, because the worst that can happen is not that bad. Voluntarily practice thinking on your feet, so the next time you’re forced to do so, you don’t freak out. People are always watching you, and if you can handle unexpected and difficult situations gracefully and effectively, your perceived (and actual) value will soar.

  7. Work hard to help others
    Everyone knows that there is incredible value in hard work. But when you work hard to help other people, that value is multiplied. If you make it one of your goals to help others achieve their goals, you’ll go through life being recognized as a great worker, but more importantly, you’ll also be seen as someone who cares about others. This will do wonders for your own attitude and personal satisfaction, but in addition to that, it will cause people to think of you first when they want to work with someone. And having everyone in the company wanting to work with you is a great card to have in your deck. [This comes from one of my favorite posts.]
  8. Ask questions and look stuff up
    Don’t be that clueless guy in the meeting who just nods like he knows what’s going on. If I’m talking and I see that going on, I’m always tempted to directly challenge that person on their knowledge of the topic. Of course I don’t, because I’m not in the business of making people look foolish, but for the love of Pete, if you don’t understand something, ask a clarifying question.

    I do this all the time. Sometimes I’m ignorant and need to be educated, and sometimes I catch the presenter being unclear or flat-out wrong. Either way, your boss will respect you for it. If you don’t have the confidence to ask the question during the meeting, follow up with the person individually, or look it up on your own. Do not walk away without understanding the topic or being prepared to learn about it. I was home-schooled through eighth grade, and I think the line my mom used the most was “Look it up.” What kind of teacher is that? Well, she’s the kind of teacher who helped me understand that we have all the knowledge we can handle readily available to us, and usually the only thing stopping us from learning is laziness.

    One final thought: when you do look stuff up and learn something, share it with the group. Don’t hoard information. Ever.

  9. Do what you’re not supposed to do
    You heard me right. Stop following all the rules. Rules exist mainly so that people don’t have to think about the right thing to do all the time – they can just follow the rules and pretty much be okay. And that’s fine for most people, but if you really want to stand out, take the time to figure out which rules can be bent, and which can be broken. But don’t just go around breaking rules and expecting good things to happen – be very deliberate in when, how and why you break a rule, and make sure it’s something that benefits other people, not yourself.

    If you break the rules for yourself, even if it’s for a perfectly legitimate reason, you’re viewed as a selfish, pompous, I’m-better-than-you-type person. But if you break the rules to help out other people, even for something small, you’re viewed as an altruistic, charitable person who goes to great lengths to help others.

    Here’s an example of what I mean: I was at an all-department meeting at work, and we were served lunch. The buffet line was up near the presenters, and everyone had had their lunch and dessert already – the presenters were in full swing. I was at one of the tables in the back. I had a little bit of a hankering for another brownie, but the rule says that I shouldn’t go up near where they’re speaking to go grab one – it could be viewed as rude. So I didn’t go. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve built enough of a reputation that if I wanted to go up, people wouldn’t think twice about it – that’s just me being me – not one to observe proper etiquette all the time. But in this case I had decided to stay put. A young intern at my table, however, mentioned that she would love another brownie, but was afraid to go up and get one. I waited a moment, then walked up there, grabbed a brownie (with the tongs), and put it on a plate. I walked back to the table, sat in my place, and wordlessly slid the brownie plate over to her. I used up a tiny bit of my political capital by walking up near the presenters, but think about how much of a positive reputation I gained from the seven other coworkers at my table, along with anyone else who saw what I did. This is the kind of rule-breaking I’m talking about.

    Know what you’re doing and why you’re doing it at all times, even if it may look strange to people who don’t know the whole story. You gain two things by approaching life this way. 1) You’re looked at in a positive light by those whom you help (and those who see you help others). 2) If you consistently break social norms in small, relatively inconsequential ways, people just note that you’re “a little odd”, and ascribe anything off-color you do to that mental model. If you’re okay with people thinking this way about you, it frees you up to make a lot of unintentional faux pas in the future and come away unscathed. It also frees you up to try a variety of social experiments, but that’s a different article. :)

  10. Give people more than they expect
    Seriously, this is way easier than it sounds. I do this all the time in very small ways, but they eventually add up. For instance, if someone asks me to provide them with some data, I’ll email it over to them, but I’ll also throw in a little note with a few related links that may also help them with their project. I’m pretty good at finding things online, and it doesn’t take me very long. For my extra two minutes of work, I may save them 30 minutes of additional searching. And even if it doesn’t help them this time, they’ll remember that I gave them more than they asked for, and that I’m a really helpful guy. If you can consistently produce small, positive interactions with people, pretty soon their image of you will begin to include all the things you want to be known for. [More on this topic here.]
  11. Get organized
    How are you going to do all these great things for everybody if you’re not organized? There are a thousand different ways to do it, and I can’t help you choose the right one. I have a habit I picked up when I used to do some fiction writing – I carry a miniature notepad and pen around in my pocket at all times. This helps me capture any idea, question or task that may be important. Once you start doing it, it’s really cool to know that you’re not missing anything anymore. Of course, you still need a good system to help you process everything. For that I recommend David Allen’s “Getting Things Done.” I intentionally didn’t link to the book on Amazon, because I want to make sure you know that I make no money by promoting this book. It’s just a method that has worked well for me, and it may be a good starting point for you. Staying organized makes doing all this extra work a lot easier.
  12. Whatever you do, do it with a touch of “you”
    I cannot stress this enough: Know who you are, and BE THAT PERSON. If you’re funny, don’t try to be too serious. If you’re serious, don’t try to be too funny. Look for ways that you can work in the things you’re good at, and stay under the radar when you’d be forced to play your weakest hand. Don’t try to fix all your weaknesses – that’s a losing game. Just mitigate any ill effects from those, and then capitalize on your strengths. The point is to be genuine and memorable in a positive way, and you can best accomplish that by doing what you’re good at.

    For me, one of the personal touches I put on email correspondence is by communicating in funny pictures, even to people I don’t know. I have a huge repository of images saved by the name of the idea they represent, and it’s become second nature to pop these into emails as I go. This doesn’t take me any extra time, but it makes my day more fun, and I’ve gotten numerous responses about how the recipient broke out into laughter during a meeting, or otherwise appreciated the gesture. Little things like that are what make you unique . . . don’t be afraid to use them to become memorable as well.

There you have it, folks. I know that was a lot of information to cover, but it’s some important stuff. You probably came to this page looking for some quick and easy things you could do to look better to your boss, but here’s the beauty of this system: if you actually do these things, you’re going to look better to everybody. And not in any kind of tricky or gimmicky way, either. You’ll look better because you’ll be better. If you want to be known for all the positive things mentioned in this article, the only way to achieve that goal is to actually be that kind of person. There are no two ways about it, and there is no substitute for hard work.

I hope this article helped give you some ideas about things you can do to make a positive impact in the lives of the people around you. If you have more ideas to share or examples of other things you do, or even if you disagree with some of these tips, I’d love to hear what you think. Please leave a comment below, and I’ll be sure to respond.

Good luck at work (and life) tomorrow!

p.s. If anything in this article really appealed to you, you may be interested in a small project I’m running. Check it out. :)

  • http://rozanina.wordpress.com/ Rosa

    Great list!
    My favorite´s the last one: Whatever you do, do it with a touch of “you”
    It`s so obvious when people try to be what they aren`t and soo refreshing when people are authentic. If you`re authentic, you`re honest and I think those are the most likeable people in the world.
    Thank you for this post, I loved it :)

  • http://rozanina.wordpress.com/ Rosa

    Great list!
    My favorite´s the last one: Whatever you do, do it with a touch of “you”
    It`s so obvious when people try to be what they aren`t and soo refreshing when people are authentic. If you`re authentic, you`re honest and I think those are the most likeable people in the world.
    Thank you for this post, I loved it :)

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      That’s true – we will give people the benefit of the doubt and forgive them so many of their faults if they would just be REAL with us . . . but as soon as we sense that they’re being fake, we shut down and don’t pay any more attention to whatever it is that they’re saying. Even if you don’t bring a lot to the table, being authentic will get you a long way.

      • http://www.webtrafficacademy.org TrafficBlogger

        Being authentic in everything you do will help to get you far. Great list of things to do to impress the people you work for and work with.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    That's true – we will give people the benefit of the doubt and forgive them so many of their faults if they would just be REAL with us . . . but as soon as we sense that they're being fake, we shut down and don't pay any more attention to whatever it is that they're saying. Even if you don't bring a lot to the table, being authentic will get you a long way.

  • http://dreammm.com/ krystyn

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts & morals on changing the world for the better blog bit by blog bit. I enjoy your blog very much. When I was in a bind at the SF international airport almost 2 wks ago I had tried to comment on “Who Do You Know” but wasn't able to. Thanks for keepin' it real and in touch. You rock.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Thanks, Krystyn, for acknowledging the “keepin' it real” part of what I do. If I don't believe it, I don't say it . . . simple as that.

    I LOVE hearing from people that some of the stories I broadcast on this site make a difference in people's lives. We all have the power to do so much for others, and it doesn't always take much effort. In fact, I think that writing this blog changes ME more than anyone else . . . it helps me stay focused on the good I can be doing for others, instead of getting bummed out thinking about my own circumstances.

    Thanks for reading – you rock. Oh, and by the way, I'm listening to your stuff on blip.fm right now, too. :)

  • http://dreammm.com/ krystyn

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts & morals on changing the world for the better blog bit by blog bit. I enjoy your blog very much. When I was in a bind at the SF international airport almost 2 wks ago I had tried to comment on “Who Do You Know” but wasn’t able to. Thanks for keepin’ it real and in touch. You rock.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Thanks, Krystyn, for acknowledging the “keepin’ it real” part of what I do. If I don’t believe it, I don’t say it . . . simple as that.

      I LOVE hearing from people that some of the stories I broadcast on this site make a difference in people’s lives. We all have the power to do so much for others, and it doesn’t always take much effort. In fact, I think that writing this blog changes ME more than anyone else . . . it helps me stay focused on the good I can be doing for others, instead of getting bummed out thinking about my own circumstances.

      Thanks for reading – you rock. Oh, and by the way, I’m listening to your stuff on blip.fm right now, too. :)

  • http://twitter.com/AmyShropshire Amy Shropshire

    And if these don't work, you should probably be looking for a different job! =P

  • http://twitter.com/AmyShropshire Amy Shropshire

    And if these don’t work, you should probably be looking for a different job! =P

    • http://twitter.com/PastillaTru Pastilla LaMannequin

      I really appreciated this comment, Amy. As I was reading through these suggestions, I kept thinking back to this One Evil Job I had where I followed many (if not most) of these tips and ended up being eaten alive.

      In some environments, actions like “giving more than what is expected” and “making others look good” leave you open to being used, stepped on, and all your hard work and ideas attributed to someone else. :(

      However, as a blueprint for how to make relationships work (friendships, families, partnerships), these ideas are pure gold.

  • http://www.earthandbodyfriendly.com.au/ Coralie

    I've mostly worked for myself throughout my working life (and I do so enjoy that), and your advice works just as well for dealing with bosses as it does for dealing with clients and anyone you meet in life. Well, yeah. I guess that's the 'Everyone Else' you mention. Heh.

    Great list, thanks. :-)

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Well yeah, Coralie, but you gotta get people to actually read the article to realize that, and the “How to Impress Your Boss” title is a great “What's in it for me?” hook. :)

    I've only been doing this a short time, and I've run into so many people who work for themselves full-time. I like my job, but I'd love to be able to run my own show. Hopefully I'll get there someday. Feel free to give ME some advice . . .

  • Nate

    13. Appear to be moral, hardworking, etc., carefully disguising your giant ego, by finding a blog that allows you to talk about how great every little detail of what you do is when you are actually a pompous ass.

  • http://seosultan.co.cc sultanofseo

    #1 is the best tip of all.

  • http://www.earthandbodyfriendly.com.au/ Coralie

    Definitely a great title.

    I used to work for myself full-time, but these days my full-time unpaid job is looking after my five year old. The paid work (still working for myself, though) is part-time. I somehow manage to do this with the kid around and no one else to look after him. I'm a single mum, so I get what help I can with babysitting from family and bring him with me to work the other times.

    Sorry, I've started rambling. My point, I guess, is that even working for yourself part-time is better than for someone else if you enjoy what you do. I'm working on earning a full-time income again so that I don't have to rely on the government (for whom I am extremely grateful, mind you) to support me and my child.

  • http://www.earthandbodyfriendly.com.au/ Coralie

    I’ve mostly worked for myself throughout my working life (and I do so enjoy that), and your advice works just as well for dealing with bosses as it does for dealing with clients and anyone you meet in life. Well, yeah. I guess that’s the ‘Everyone Else’ you mention. Heh.

    Great list, thanks. :-)

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Well yeah, Coralie, but you gotta get people to actually read the article to realize that, and the “How to Impress Your Boss” title is a great “What’s in it for me?” hook. :)

      I’ve only been doing this a short time, and I’ve run into so many people who work for themselves full-time. I like my job, but I’d love to be able to run my own show. Hopefully I’ll get there someday. Feel free to give ME some advice . . .

      • http://www.earthandbodyfriendly.com.au/ Coralie

        Definitely a great title.

        I used to work for myself full-time, but these days my full-time unpaid job is looking after my five year old. The paid work (still working for myself, though) is part-time. I somehow manage to do this with the kid around and no one else to look after him. I’m a single mum, so I get what help I can with babysitting from family and bring him with me to work the other times.

        Sorry, I’ve started rambling. My point, I guess, is that even working for yourself part-time is better than for someone else if you enjoy what you do. I’m working on earning a full-time income again so that I don’t have to rely on the government (for whom I am extremely grateful, mind you) to support me and my child.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Yes! My first piece of hate mail – I was wondering when it would come. :)

    You raise a valid point . . . I assumed it was obvious that I'm not saying that I live up to these standards all the time myself – I certainly do not. These are just things that I've noticed make an impact, both from my own life, and from others whom I respect. I wish I could do all of these all the time; I'd feel a lot better about myself, and probably be a better employee, husband and friend.

  • Anon

    This is great – except for if you work for a tobacco company that makes money in using “slave” labor in order to distribute addictive tobacco products which lead to people's death.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    I thought so too . . . if you can honestly and sincerely do that, then all the rest of them combined probably don't amount to that much more of a difference.

  • Tyler

    OK, pretty sure that Nate found this article on digg or some other aggregate site and is one of those guys who enjoys making snide comments and belittling others. Congratulations Nate u prlly get most of ur laughs and self satisfaction at the expense of others, enjoy being miserable? Guess what ur misery only hurts yourself… and its a circular process, so ur only going to get more miserable!
    The very first tip says to care for others and perhaps unknowingly the author has included half of what God declared when questioned as to what is the greatest of the commandments. I think that the first point may be the most influential reason that the author has found success or “impressed” his peers. If you were unaware mister author, check it out! Bc u may have already realized or be close to realizing that living life in service of self is a silly thing to do. The pleasure that we receive from serving self is a cheap imitation of true joy! and to anyone who is motivated by and strongly desires what feels good and what is fun, and pleasure itself… do yourself a favor, experience a more powerful pleasure than u can imagine, one that doesn't leave you wanting more, because it fills you to overflowing!
    I think perhaps some of what the author has experienced hasn't been calculated strategy for climbing the ladder… but rather a side effect of the first tip he shares.
    (the other half of the greatest commandment is to love God btw)

  • susie

    I really liked your comments. Like you said, things that most people already know, but to see them on paper and go through it this way, is good . Keeps me on track! Thank you for sharing!

  • Nate

    13. Appear to be moral, hardworking, etc., carefully disguising your giant ego, by finding a blog that allows you to talk about how great every little detail of what you do is when you are actually a pompous ass.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Yes! My first piece of hate mail – I was wondering when it would come. :)

      You raise a valid point . . . I assumed it was obvious that I’m not saying that I live up to these standards all the time myself – I certainly do not. These are just things that I’ve noticed make an impact, both from my own life, and from others whom I respect. I wish I could do all of these all the time; I’d feel a lot better about myself, and probably be a better employee, husband and friend.

      • http://twitter.com/Rozanina Rosalina Peña

        I actually like that phrase: ¨pompous ass¨ sounds cool, gonna start using it more :)

    • Tyler

      OK, pretty sure that Nate found this article on digg or some other aggregate site and is one of those guys who enjoys making snide comments and belittling others. Congratulations Nate u prlly get most of ur laughs and self satisfaction at the expense of others, enjoy being miserable? Guess what ur misery only hurts yourself… and its a circular process, so ur only going to get more miserable!
      The very first tip says to care for others and perhaps unknowingly the author has included half of what God declared when questioned as to what is the greatest of the commandments. I think that the first point may be the most influential reason that the author has found success or “impressed” his peers. If you were unaware mister author, check it out! Bc u may have already realized or be close to realizing that living life in service of self is a silly thing to do. The pleasure that we receive from serving self is a cheap imitation of true joy! and to anyone who is motivated by and strongly desires what feels good and what is fun, and pleasure itself… do yourself a favor, experience a more powerful pleasure than u can imagine, one that doesn’t leave you wanting more, because it fills you to overflowing!
      I think perhaps some of what the author has experienced hasn’t been calculated strategy for climbing the ladder… but rather a side effect of the first tip he shares.
      (the other half of the greatest commandment is to love God btw)

  • http://seosultan.co.cc sultanofseo

    #1 is the best tip of all.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      I thought so too . . . if you can honestly and sincerely do that, then all the rest of them combined probably don’t amount to that much more of a difference.

      • mettabot

        totally agree. and there’s science there to back this one up. the happiest and healthiest primates are those that share healthy relationships with their peers. caring for others not only lowers our blood-pressure, but it also gives us the chance, among all the mundane tasks or day’s responsibilities, to laugh and experience joy throughout the day. i mean, if that’s not what it’s all about, then..well, no, that’s just what it’s all about.

  • John

    Hey Nate, nice pissing in the punch.
    John

  • Anon

    This is great – except for if you work for a tobacco company that makes money in using “slave” labor in order to distribute addictive tobacco products which lead to people’s death.

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    The pictures you used for each point do complement most of the arguments well, though you could probably use a better picture for the last point (ironically :D). If someone emails me a picture of colored pencils I'd think the other person is telling me that I'm boring (and I need to be more 'colorful').

    By the way, the first picture–I have that toy. :D

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    I can't remember what I searched for to find that one, but I really liked it for “a touch of you.” It's a little gooey and saccharine, sure, but I felt it illustrated the unique hues that we all bring to the table.

    I think I just vomited in my mouth a little bit.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Hahahaha, this one made me laugh, thanks.

  • susie

    I really liked your comments. Like you said, things that most people already know, but to see them on paper and go through it this way, is good . Keeps me on track! Thank you for sharing!

  • John

    Hey Nate, nice pissing in the punch.
    John

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Hahahaha, this one made me laugh, thanks.

  • http://www.leadscribetranscription.com Transcription Outsourcing

    The pictures you used for each point do complement most of the arguments well, though you could probably use a better picture for the last point (ironically :D). If someone emails me a picture of colored pencils I’d think the other person is telling me that I’m boring (and I need to be more ‘colorful’).

    By the way, the first picture–I have that toy. :D

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      I can’t remember what I searched for to find that one, but I really liked it for “a touch of you.” It’s a little gooey and saccharine, sure, but I felt it illustrated the unique hues that we all bring to the table.

      I think I just vomited in my mouth a little bit.

  • http://www.cummins.com/ Paul Escobar

    Interesting read! Thanks for sharing!

  • http://filesmixx.com/ alexx

    And if these don't work, you should probably be looking for a different job

  • http://sankar.info/ Sankar

    Awesome tips. These are right ways to impress your boss as well as to make a right path for your professional career.

    Thanks
    Sankar

  • http://www.cummins.com/ Paul Escobar

    Interesting read! Thanks for sharing!

  • Dude

    “In my 15-year career I’ve worked at a large number of different companies and held a wide variety of positions.”

    So what your really telling us is that you've never held a job very long and this is how you accomplished short-term notoriety.

  • http://filesmixx.com/ alexx

    And if these don’t work, you should probably be looking for a different job

  • http://sankar.info/ Sankar

    Awesome tips. These are right ways to impress your boss as well as to make a right path for your professional career.

    Thanks
    Sankar

  • Dude

    “In my 15-year career I’ve worked at a large number of different companies and held a wide variety of positions.”

    So what your really telling us is that you’ve never held a job very long and this is how you accomplished short-term notoriety.

    • Tea Leana

      With so many, many things out there, Who honestly wants to spend their whole lives devoted to the one tedious thing? Get out there, Experience. Why not.

  • SA

    Heh, my boss dislikes my excellent organizational skills as she is a slob…

  • http://isobot.org/ chris

    To be honest, I was thinking that Nate might be right, parts do seem a bit boisterous, but all blogs by definition are egotistical? So I was split 50/50 on on the subject liking what I read but thinking that this guy needs to get over himself until I read the reply to Leadscribe transcription! You rock! thanks for not taking yourself so seriously!

  • SA

    Heh, my boss dislikes my excellent organizational skills as she is a slob…

  • guest

    wow, that sounds like a moral education. I doubt any of that will impress any boss. stop getting a bunch of visitors by using a confusing title. workplace is a cruel world not a ethically-perfect world as you may imagine.

  • JOhn Thomas

    LOL< thats pretty good dude, be the office brown nose! LOL

    RT
    http://www.absoluteanonymity.tk

  • http://isobot.org/ chris

    To be honest, I was thinking that Nate might be right, parts do seem a bit boisterous, but all blogs by definition are egotistical? So I was split 50/50 on on the subject liking what I read but thinking that this guy needs to get over himself until I read the reply to Leadscribe transcription! You rock! thanks for not taking yourself so seriously!

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Haha, thanks Chris! Because of the nature of this article, I felt it needed a more authoritative voice and it had to contain a lot of personal experience, so I can see how it could come across as if I were a . . . how did someone on Digg put it? “As a self-important, smug, pompous dick wad.” End quote.

      If you read some of the other articles on the site, I hope you’ll see that I’m actually a pretty nice guy, and really interested in other people and what they’re doing . . . and how I (and we) can learn from them.

  • Tea Leana

    With so many, many things out there, Who honestly wants to spend their whole lives devoted to the one tedious thing? Get out there, Experience. Why not.

  • Tea Leana

    Firstly, I was happily thankful whilst reading this article that I didn't encounter any typos :) I really just grate at the teeth when I see any! :P
    But I would also say that number one is the most important point, I feel so… blerh.. when I encounter service providers in the work industry that you can really, blatantly tell they don't care an ounce for you. I think the worst are supermarket/fast food people, and those in realestate. A shame as I'd love to be an RE agent one day, and I know that I'd do my utmost to be caring (a given, you would think, in that particular industry).
    Anyway, thanks for sharing your article :)!!

  • guest

    wow, that sounds like a moral education. I doubt any of that will impress any boss. stop getting a bunch of visitors by using a confusing title. workplace is a cruel world not a ethically-perfect world as you may imagine.

    • mettabot

      workplace is cruel world? perhaps because so many people share your attitude, guest. not one of the 12 points requires that the environment be “ethically perfect,” and in fact, i’d argue that all 12 are advantageous characteristics given to humans by evolution to survive living in communities. the other characteristics given to us, of course, are the alpha-male, high-stress, power-play qualities that, as all of us have experienced, aren’t long-term and certainly aren’t advantageous for the community, i.e., the business.

  • Me

    I hate to say it, but where my work is concerned, these suggestions are BS when you have a boss that has made up his mind to be unimpressed with you. It actually ends up costing me to work here because of the distance I commute – but I still keep coming to work because I like the company and the work I do… I stopped trying impress him a year ago.

  • http://twitter.com/rosa7987 Rosalina Peña

    I actually like that phrase: ¨pompous ass¨ sounds cool, gonna start using it more :)

  • Tea Leana

    Firstly, I was happily thankful whilst reading this article that I didn’t encounter any typos :) I really just grate at the teeth when I see any! :P
    But I would also say that number one is the most important point, I feel so… blerh.. when I encounter service providers in the work industry that you can really, blatantly tell they don’t care an ounce for you. I think the worst are supermarket/fast food people, and those in realestate. A shame as I’d love to be an RE agent one day, and I know that I’d do my utmost to be caring (a given, you would think, in that particular industry).
    Anyway, thanks for sharing your article :)!!

  • Doug

    Some times it's all about your boss and nothing you can do will change their insecurities. If you're in a situation like this just remember no matter what you try to improve the relationship it takes two people to make something work. If you can't impress your boss you need to get your fulfillment elsewhere in life. Either get a hobby, a life or get another job.

  • Me

    I hate to say it, but where my work is concerned, these suggestions are BS when you have a boss that has made up his mind to be unimpressed with you. It actually ends up costing me to work here because of the distance I commute – but I still keep coming to work because I like the company and the work I do… I stopped trying impress him a year ago.

  • Doug

    Some times it’s all about your boss and nothing you can do will change their insecurities. If you’re in a situation like this just remember no matter what you try to improve the relationship it takes two people to make something work. If you can’t impress your boss you need to get your fulfillment elsewhere in life. Either get a hobby, a life or get another job.

  • Patrik

    Great article.

  • http://www.failfriend.com/ Korgo

    I find it really depends on the industry. Some industries, such as transportation and retail, are out to screw the employee every chance they get. other industries such as tech, they really wish the best for their employees. I've been in multiple companies, and over hearing HR debating on firing someone over health issues so the company does have to pay up and other companies talking about giving educational assistance, its really hit or miss on how greedy the executives are.

  • mettabot

    workplace is cruel world? perhaps because so many people share your attitude, guest. not one of the 12 points requires that the environment be “ethically perfect,” and in fact, i'd argue that all 12 are advantageous characteristics given to humans by evolution to survive living in communities. the other characteristics given to us, of course, are the alpha-male, high-stress, power-play qualities that, as all of us have experienced, aren't long-term and certainly aren't advantageous for the community, i.e., the business.

  • mettabot

    totally agree. and there's science there to back this one up. the happiest and healthiest primates are those that share healthy relationships with their peers. caring for others not only lowers our blood-pressure, but it also gives us the chance, among all the mundane tasks or day's responsibilities, to laugh and experience joy throughout the day. i mean, if that's not what it's all about, then..well, no, that's just what it's all about.

  • Patrik

    Great article.

  • http://www.failfriend.com/ Korgo

    I find it really depends on the industry. Some industries, such as transportation and retail, are out to screw the employee every chance they get. other industries such as tech, they really wish the best for their employees. I’ve been in multiple companies, and over hearing HR debating on firing someone over health issues so the company does have to pay up and other companies talking about giving educational assistance, its really hit or miss on how greedy the executives are.

  • Gordon

    God this is so lame, full of nice flowery feelings. Seriously ? Care about people ? I work for a company who asked me to make up the sick day I took to go visit my mother in the hospital. Nobody gives a flying fuck about your 'feelings' and 'compassion' in the workplace. Just get the job done and never, never screw up. 15 years in a wide array of positions ? What, you couldn't hold on to one job ? Maybe your advice is not so good then. You've obviously never worked on Wall Street.

  • http://www.packerranter.com/ Robert Greenfield

    Gordon, you might be onto something there. Why care about a company that doesn't care for you? No one should be asked to do that. However, when you are in a company where the respect is mutual, this advice is exponentially advantageous. Great article!

  • http://twitter.com/rosa7987 Rosalina Peña

    I agree Robert. There will always be companies and bosses that don´t give a damn about their employees, and if we ever find ourselves in a situation like that we should do our best to get out of there but this list is still worth the try. Like Nate said, it not only helps to impress your boss or someone in a working environment, it can impress anyone and help you to just be a better person. Besides, even if your boss is not paying attention or caring about what you do, maybe someone else is! We should always, always do the right thing, because someone will take notice. Maybe not inmediately, maybe later on. I don`t think it`s right to live on this thinking: ¨If nobody cares about me, why should I care?¨ We should ALWAYS care, we can make an impact on anybody, AND ourselves.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Excellent point, Rosalina. I fully agree.

  • Gordon

    God this is so lame, full of nice flowery feelings. Seriously ? Care about people ? I work for a company who asked me to make up the sick day I took to go visit my mother in the hospital. Nobody gives a flying fuck about your ‘feelings’ and ‘compassion’ in the workplace. Just get the job done and never, never screw up. 15 years in a wide array of positions ? What, you couldn’t hold on to one job ? Maybe your advice is not so good then. You’ve obviously never worked on Wall Street.

    • http://www.packerranter.com/ Robert Greenfield

      Gordon, you might be onto something there. Why care about a company that doesn’t care for you? No one should be asked to do that. However, when you are in a company where the respect is mutual, this advice is exponentially advantageous. Great article!

      • http://twitter.com/Rozanina Rosalina Peña

        I agree Robert. There will always be companies and bosses that don´t give a damn about their employees, and if we ever find ourselves in a situation like that we should do our best to get out of there but this list is still worth the try. Like Nate said, it not only helps to impress your boss or someone in a working environment, it can impress anyone and help you to just be a better person. Besides, even if your boss is not paying attention or caring about what you do, maybe someone else is! We should always, always do the right thing, because someone will take notice. Maybe not inmediately, maybe later on. I don`t think it`s right to live on this thinking: ¨If nobody cares about me, why should I care?¨ We should ALWAYS care, we can make an impact on anybody, AND ourselves.

        • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

          Excellent point, Rosalina. I fully agree.

        • Aaa

          its not that “why he would care?” he obviously HAS to care, because its his job. we all need job and money to live. its not that easy to quit from a job just because a boss hates us, unless we are a big popular super most talented star in our field that can get another job with best boss in few seconds we quit.

  • http://www.BreakupMakeup.com/ Breakup Makeup

    Thanks…! Love the brownie story.

  • Ronnie

    I think your blog has some excellent advice in it, however I'm a little bit annoyed about how quickly you judge insecure people. Perhaps its because I'm somewhat of an insecure person. I definitely know people who arn't that confident that care a great deal about others. Up to now I've always thought that it is a human characteristic to be insecure. is it not?

  • kunt

    what a fucking nigger like piece of shit article

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    I didn't intend to judge insecure people, and I'm sorry if I offended in that respect. I think it's a big leap to imply that I'm saying people who are insecure are incapable of caring about others – I'll disagree with your interpretation there.

    If you're referring to when I said “if you don't have the confidence to ask during the meeting” [Tip #8], please know that I wasn't condemning that feeling. I have it often myself. Sometimes it's hard to speak up in a big meeting where you're not comfortable with everyone, and you run the risk of looking foolish. That happens to all of us, and I was just saying that even in that situation, don't let it stop you from following up individually with the person to ask your question. I've done that, and been surprised by how accommodating even a high-up person can be.

    Hope that helps clarify – sorry for the confusion.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Haha, thanks Chris! Because of the nature of this article, I felt it needed a more authoritative voice and it had to contain a lot of personal experience, so I can see how it could come across as if I were a . . . how did someone on Digg put it? “As a self-important, smug, pompous dick wad.” End quote.

    If you read some of the other articles on the site, I hope you'll see that I'm actually a pretty nice guy, and really interested in other people and what they're doing . . . and how I (and we) can learn from them.

  • http://www.BreakupMakeup.com/ Breakup Makeup

    Thanks…! Love the brownie story.

  • Ronnie

    I think your blog has some excellent advice in it, however I’m a little bit annoyed about how quickly you judge insecure people. Perhaps its because I’m somewhat of an insecure person. I definitely know people who arn’t that confident that care a great deal about others. Up to now I’ve always thought that it is a human characteristic to be insecure. is it not?

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      I didn’t intend to judge insecure people, and I’m sorry if I offended in that respect. I think it’s a big leap to imply that I’m saying people who are insecure are incapable of caring about others – I’ll disagree with your interpretation there.

      If you’re referring to when I said “if you don’t have the confidence to ask during the meeting” [Tip #8], please know that I wasn’t condemning that feeling. I have it often myself. Sometimes it’s hard to speak up in a big meeting where you’re not comfortable with everyone, and you run the risk of looking foolish. That happens to all of us, and I was just saying that even in that situation, don’t let it stop you from following up individually with the person to ask your question. I’ve done that, and been surprised by how accommodating even a high-up person can be.

      Hope that helps clarify – sorry for the confusion.

  • http://twitter.com/PastillaTru Pastilla LaMannequin

    I really appreciated this comment, Amy. As I was reading through these suggestions, I kept thinking back to this One Evil Job I had where I followed many (if not most) of these tips and ended up being eaten alive.

    In some environments, actions like “giving more than what is expected” and “making others look good” leave you open to being used, stepped on, and all your hard work and ideas attributed to someone else. :(

    However, as a blueprint for how to make relationships work (friendships, families, partnerships), these ideas are pure gold.

  • Ronnie

    Im glad to head that you don't hate insecure people! I have to agree I find that when i personally am being open, honest, and authentic with people I feel much more secure than if I was bending the truth, or repressing something that was on my mind.

    The line that kind of bothered me was in the (1) Care about People section , where you talked about how insecure people have an ulterior motive, and how that insecurity stems from a person not caring about others and only being in it for themselves. That was just my interpretation about the blurb about insecure people.

    I'll definitely take your advice about speaking your mind and making sure to ask questions when you don't understand something. I'm heading out to university in September and I believe that advice is useful for university, particularily when I'm confused about a topic an instructor is covering in class

  • Ronnie

    Im glad to head that you don’t hate insecure people! I have to agree I find that when i personally am being open, honest, and authentic with people I feel much more secure than if I was bending the truth, or repressing something that was on my mind.

    The line that kind of bothered me was in the (1) Care about People section , where you talked about how insecure people have an ulterior motive, and how that insecurity stems from a person not caring about others and only being in it for themselves. That was just my interpretation about the blurb about insecure people.

    I’ll definitely take your advice about speaking your mind and making sure to ask questions when you don’t understand something. I’m heading out to university in September and I believe that advice is useful for university, particularily when I’m confused about a topic an instructor is covering in class

    • Sarah

      Ronnie,

      In tip #1

      It said INSINCERE people have ulterior motive, not insecure. Maybe that is why you were confused?

      tip #8 didn’t mention the word insecure, simply if you don’t have knowledge on a particular subject – seek it out.

  • Sarah

    Ronnie,

    In tip #1

    It said INSINCERE people have ulterior motive, not insecure. Maybe that is why you were confused?

    tip #8 didn't mention the word insecure, simply if you don't have knowledge on a particular subject – seek it out.

  • Arun Kumar

    Nice article :)

  • Ronnie

    oh woops! That makes alot more sense now. Thanx for catching that Sarah!

  • Arun Kumar

    Nice article :)

  • Ronnie

    oh woops! That makes alot more sense now. Thanx for catching that Sarah!

    • Sarah

      No worries :) When I read it w/ “insecure” instead I could see how that would be confusing and frustrating. I do that sometimes when I’m in a hurry and just sort of glance at an article, then I have to go back and read again….Anyway, good luck w/ school Ronnie!!

  • Sarah

    No worries :) When I read it w/ “insecure” instead I could see how that would be confusing and frustrating. I do that sometimes when I'm in a hurry and just sort of glance at an article, then I have to go back and read again….Anyway, good luck w/ school Ronnie!!

  • http://www.emergingtiro.com/ Evan

    Great article.

    A lot of what you said reminds me of what I’ve read in, How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and many other books on leadership. A good summary of Dale Carnegie's and other business books is given in this article, http://www.emergingtiro.com/?p=168.

    I agree with almost everything you have said except for the, ” ask for help” part. If you ask for help too much people will question your intelligence and the confidence that you have in your work. You should be able to ask questions, but they should be specific and only after you have done research and not found a suitable answer.

    If you go to someone and say I’ve done this research but still have a question about the material you will look intelligent, your work will be acknowledged, and the person will usually be happy to help you figure out the answer.

    Evan
    http://www.emergingtiro.com

  • http://www.emergingtiro.com/ Evan

    Great article.

    A lot of what you said reminds me of what I’ve read in, How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and many other books on leadership. A good summary of Dale Carnegie’s and other business books is given in this article, http://www.emergingtiro.com/?p=168.

    I agree with almost everything you have said except for the, ” ask for help” part. If you ask for help too much people will question your intelligence and the confidence that you have in your work. You should be able to ask questions, but they should be specific and only after you have done research and not found a suitable answer.

    If you go to someone and say I’ve done this research but still have a question about the material you will look intelligent, your work will be acknowledged, and the person will usually be happy to help you figure out the answer.

    Evan
    http://www.emergingtiro.com

  • http://www.ketansnadar.com/ Ketan

    I do follow the point 10 mentioned above..but hardly i get recognized for that..may be i am not lucky…but surely i will not stop doing that…
    Thanks for such a wondeful post..i was really inspired to read these stuffs…
    Ketan

  • http://www.ketansnadar.com/ Ketan

    I do follow the point 10 mentioned above..but hardly i get recognized for that..may be i am not lucky…but surely i will not stop doing that…
    Thanks for such a wondeful post..i was really inspired to read these stuffs…
    Ketan

  • Mike 214

    I love your archive of pics.

    “Keep the hecklers close, you know those haters'll test ya.” Dude said you've obviously have never worked on wall street! lol. “I loved you in Wall Street!”

  • Mike 214

    I love your archive of pics.

    “Keep the hecklers close, you know those haters’ll test ya.” Dude said you’ve obviously have never worked on wall street! lol. “I loved you in Wall Street!”

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Hahaha, what movie was that from? Hot Shots Part Deux? Martin Sheen to
      Charlie Sheen, passing on the boats?

      • Mike 214

        yes sir

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Hahaha, what movie was that from? Hot Shots Part Deux? Martin Sheen to
    Charlie Sheen, passing on the boats?

  • Mike 214

    yes sir

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  • http://www.thew4.org/ Eol

    Nice post. Thanks a lot.

  • http://www.thew4.org/ Eol

    Nice post. Thanks a lot.

  • http://www.webtrafficacademy.org TrafficBlogger

    Being authentic in everything you do will help to get you far. Great list of things to do to impress the people you work for and work with.

  • http://www.etiquetteexpert.com/ Jacqueline Whitmore

    Here's another tip: Never talk badly about your former bosses. Even if you couldn't stand your last boss, your current boss doesn't need to know about it. Bitching, moaning, griping and complaining only makes you look like a sour grape. If you're guilty of this, your current boss might think that you'll do the same to her if and when you leave your existing job.

  • http://twitter.com/etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore

    Here's another tip: Never bad-mouth your former bosses. Bitching, moaning and complaining only makes you look like a sour grape. Let bygones be bygones. Besides, your current boss might think that you will do the same to her if and when you leave the organization.

  • http://twitter.com/etiquetteexpert Jacqueline Whitmore

    Here’s another tip: Never bad-mouth your former bosses. Bitching, moaning and complaining only makes you look like a sour grape. Let bygones be bygones. Besides, your current boss might think that you will do the same to her if and when you leave the organization.

  • Hashimah S. Hashim

    Your article is so refreshing! Thanks for the tips. Keep them coming.

  • Hashimah S. Hashim

    Your article is so refreshing! Thanks for the tips. Keep them coming.

  • http://myspace.com/pimpwin John Erwin

    I happened to Stumble upon this, and what a great article. Lots of people have no idea how happy they will be in their lives if they just followed these steps. Another thing that is pretty much what you are saying is to be real. Don't be a fake, and like you said, be yourself, all the while being honest and helpful. That's one of the most important things to do in life, because in this world where its pretty much all about peoples perspective on you, you will be respected like no other. Great read, and I am bookmarking this, because sometimes, I can lose focus, and need to be regulated on to get back on track haha. You seem like a smart guy (author of article), you should hit me up, I can imagine it will be an interesting conversation.

  • http://myspace.com/pimpwin John Erwin

    I happened to Stumble upon this, and what a great article. Lots of people have no idea how happy they will be in their lives if they just followed these steps. Another thing that is pretty much what you are saying is to be real. Don’t be a fake, and like you said, be yourself, all the while being honest and helpful. That’s one of the most important things to do in life, because in this world where its pretty much all about peoples perspective on you, you will be respected like no other. Great read, and I am bookmarking this, because sometimes, I can lose focus, and need to be regulated on to get back on track haha. You seem like a smart guy (author of article), you should hit me up, I can imagine it will be an interesting conversation.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Shoot me an email at nate [at] ItStartsWith.Us anytime, man. I went to your page, but it’s MySpace, and I can’t message you on there…

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Shoot me an email at nate [at] ItStartsWith.Us anytime, man. I went to your page, but it's MySpace, and I can't message you on there…

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    Amazing list of must-haves to impress your boss or anyone else!

    It sums up really well that honesty, integrity and care for the others are the vital ingredients to win anybody's heart. A good understanding of these vital elements of human relationships can add a new life and joy in most people's lives!

  • http://www.meditation-techniques-guide.com Meditation Techniques Guide

    Amazing list of must-haves to impress your boss or anyone else!

    It sums up really well that honesty, integrity and care for the others are the vital ingredients to win anybody’s heart. A good understanding of these vital elements of human relationships can add a new life and joy in most people’s lives!

  • D

    I agree with everything on this list aside from number 2.

    As a practising Clinical Psychologist of over 2 decades, I have often found myself in situations where complete honesty could be detrimental to the wellbeing of my patient. For example, coaxing a small child to tell me who visited their house last night, before explaining why his parents weren't moving the following morning.

    Under 'normal' living conditions, yes, honesty is the best policy, but you did state that “we continue to tell lies or half-truths to make ourselves look better in certain situations. Don’t do this. Ever.”.

    I do like the way you write, and I plan to spend the next hour or so browsing your blog here. I have a feeling that I'll be learning something from it.

    Oh, and I love the URL you chose :)

  • D

    I agree with everything on this list aside from number 2.

    As a practising Clinical Psychologist of over 2 decades, I have often found myself in situations where complete honesty could be detrimental to the wellbeing of my patient. For example, coaxing a small child to tell me who visited their house last night, before explaining why his parents weren’t moving the following morning.

    Under ‘normal’ living conditions, yes, honesty is the best policy, but you did state that “we continue to tell lies or half-truths to make ourselves look better in certain situations. Don’t do this. Ever.”.

    I do like the way you write, and I plan to spend the next hour or so browsing your blog here. I have a feeling that I’ll be learning something from it.

    Oh, and I love the URL you chose :)

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Thanks for the thoughtful comment, “D”. I agree with your assessment about complete honesty being detrimental in some situations. In this context I was talking more specifically about workplace interactions, with the qualifier of telling lies or half-truths in order to falsely alter their perception of you (in your favor).

      Thanks for taking the time to look around – feel free to connect on Twitter or via email anytime – I enjoy hearing from people.

      Just make sure to tell me you’re “D”. :)

      Nate

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Thanks for the thoughtful comment, “D”. I agree with your assessment about complete honesty being detrimental in some situations. In this context I was talking more specifically about workplace interactions, with the qualifier of telling lies or half-truths in order to falsely alter their perception of you (in your favor).

    Thanks for taking the time to look around – feel free to connect on Twitter or via email anytime – I enjoy hearing from people.

    Just make sure to tell me you're “D”. :)

    Nate

  • Crese

    This doesn't seem like a very useful article…

    You either do the things above… or you don't.

    It depends on how your momma raised you… so to speak.

    To a guy like me, these things are obvious.
    To people who aren't like me, there's no way they'll ever learn to do them.
    It's really too late for those folks who read this and learned something new that they hadn't tried yet.

    You can't fake or learn being a empathetic and considerate strong spined human being.

  • Crese

    This doesn’t seem like a very useful article…

    You either do the things above… or you don’t.

    It depends on how your momma raised you… so to speak.

    To a guy like me, these things are obvious.
    To people who aren’t like me, there’s no way they’ll ever learn to do them.
    It’s really too late for those folks who read this and learned something new that they hadn’t tried yet.

    You can’t fake or learn being a empathetic and considerate strong spined human being.

  • http://howtorelaxdeeprelaxationmeditationstressrelief.wordpress.com/ StressReliefs

    Just found your article via SmilingMind at Twitter. Fantastic reading. Definitely must remember some of these points… especially with my boss returning to work next week after 5 weeks off so we can start off on the 'right foot'!

  • http://howtorelaxdeeprelaxationmeditationstressrelief.wordpress.com/ StressReliefs

    Just found your article via SmilingMind at Twitter. Fantastic reading. Definitely must remember some of these points… especially with my boss returning to work next week after 5 weeks off so we can start off on the ‘right foot’!

  • bunnygotblog

    This is a totally awesome article. I really appreciate this post.

  • Anonymous

    This is a totally awesome article. I really appreciate this post.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Thanks, I’m really glad you like it.

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Thanks, I'm really glad you like it.

  • ZAnZOnA

    Hello, Actually what I have just read in the article is all applied, I do all of those things. So, thanks for the information, it showed that I am right in what I am doing, and ummm, If u want I can add so many ideas if u just can write to me on my e-mail.. thanks for u

  • Anonymous

    Hello, Actually what I have just read in the article is all applied, I do all of those things. So, thanks for the information, it showed that I am right in what I am doing, and ummm, If u want I can add so many ideas if u just can write to me on my e-mail.. thanks for u

  • http://www.jeffreyjdavis.com JeffreyJDavis

    These are really great tips and somehow this list just pops for me so much more than many other similar lists I've come across. I especially love “Be Respectful With An Edge”, “Ask Questions and Look Stuff Up” and “Do What You're Not Supposed To Do”. Thanks for summarizing many elements of my life philosophy in one concise list.

  • http://www.jeffreyjdavis.com JeffreyJDavis

    These are really great tips and somehow this list just pops for me so much more than many other similar lists I’ve come across. I especially love “Be Respectful With An Edge”, “Ask Questions and Look Stuff Up” and “Do What You’re Not Supposed To Do”. Thanks for summarizing many elements of my life philosophy in one concise list.

  • Daniel

    Thanks for sharing.

  • Daniel

    Thanks for sharing.

  • sheenacheong

    this is really good.

  • Anonymous

    this is really good.

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  • wolf54153

    So do you think that if I read this article daily, it'll get imprinted into my subconscious, making these self-improvements easier to make?

  • Anonymous

    So do you think that if I read this article daily, it’ll get imprinted into my subconscious, making these self-improvements easier to make?

  • toobusy

    YOU SOUND like a giant douchebag. No offence but picking up brownies for hungry colleagues and funny pictures in email?? What do you work as?? :/ Middle management amirite?

  • Anonymous

    YOU SOUND like a giant douchebag. No offence but picking up brownies for hungry colleagues and funny pictures in email?? What do you work as?? :/ Middle management amirite?

  • NiseyD

    thank you for the list run down! I feel that these steps are me! At work I am a supervisor. I would run a shift quite differently from other managers. I am honoured to say that staff compliment my way & are happy to find that I am working with them.

    We are human & every day life can be tough. When people come to work they have earnt time out from their every day life. Let them breath, be themselves & let things flow. They don't want to be badgered from managers all day!

    I find that when they have their own space & ways to work things out for themselves they tend to complete tasks with a little bit of pride & are not scared off for 'doing things the wrong way'. As I see it – as long as jobs are completed well & have the desired end result – its one less thing to be stressed about; unlike when tasks are completed step by step – creating more 'self importance' for the shift manager & more stress for the staff member 'forgetting a step'. (m0re like 'forgetting' out of spite!)

    My manager I fear finds my method weak for he likes to come across as a scary 'hard ass'. He likes those who are tough, roothless, manipulative & personality-less. Those who don't care about other's feelings & others that are a threat of getting in their way as they strive for the top possition. I sadly see through their way. People with such fire usually have lost power growing up so they use careers as a way to gain power so they will never loose that power struggle again.

    I however am a softy. I do let things slide from time to time. But I am young & still learning the ropes. It is good when people try to challange my athority because it makes me stand up & challange them back giving me more confidence to gain more self belief that I can do this job the best way I feel. I have been told that I can care a bit too much but I learn more about how people operate & learn that everyone handles things differently & makes it better to approach a situation that they may be struggling with. Some need to be treated tougher than others. Some don't like a caring supervisor. Some see it as a break to be themselves.

    thank you again for your time! It has been great to hear from a like-minded person. Gives me more 'umph' that my way hasn't been a waste of time & to stand strong & stick to my guns!

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us ItStartsWithUs

    Thanks for taking the time to write this note – I really enjoy hearing from people who are working through these things on a daily basis. I'm a young leader too, and every day I learn something new that will help out down the road.

    Keep caring for your people, and you'll do great.

  • Anonymous

    thank you for the list run down! I feel that these steps are me! At work I am a supervisor. I would run a shift quite differently from other managers. I am honoured to say that staff compliment my way & are happy to find that I am working with them.

    We are human & every day life can be tough. When people come to work they have earnt time out from their every day life. Let them breath, be themselves & let things flow. They don’t want to be badgered from managers all day!

    I find that when they have their own space & ways to work things out for themselves they tend to complete tasks with a little bit of pride & are not scared off for ‘doing things the wrong way’. As I see it – as long as jobs are completed well & have the desired end result – its one less thing to be stressed about; unlike when tasks are completed step by step – creating more ‘self importance’ for the shift manager & more stress for the staff member ‘forgetting a step’. (m0re like ‘forgetting’ out of spite!)

    My manager I fear finds my method weak for he likes to come across as a scary ‘hard ass’. He likes those who are tough, roothless, manipulative & personality-less. Those who don’t care about other’s feelings & others that are a threat of getting in their way as they strive for the top possition. I sadly see through their way. People with such fire usually have lost power growing up so they use careers as a way to gain power so they will never loose that power struggle again.

    I however am a softy. I do let things slide from time to time. But I am young & still learning the ropes. It is good when people try to challange my athority because it makes me stand up & challange them back giving me more confidence to gain more self belief that I can do this job the best way I feel. I have been told that I can care a bit too much but I learn more about how people operate & learn that everyone handles things differently & makes it better to approach a situation that they may be struggling with. Some need to be treated tougher than others. Some don’t like a caring supervisor. Some see it as a break to be themselves.

    thank you again for your time! It has been great to hear from a like-minded person. Gives me more ‘umph’ that my way hasn’t been a waste of time & to stand strong & stick to my guns!

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Thanks for taking the time to write this note – I really enjoy hearing from people who are working through these things on a daily basis. I’m a young leader too, and every day I learn something new that will help out down the road.

      Keep caring for your people, and you’ll do great.

    • Whisper

      I agree with you 100 percent. I work for a large company having offices here in the US and in over seas. It’s hard sometimes when you feel as though your on the very bottom of the totem pole. I work with 15 other men and the only women on my shift. They are a great bunch of guys, and if any of us need help during any given day they are right there. On the other hand if I need help they are less reluctant to offer help because of fear they aren’t suppose too.

      It’s hard sometimes to take our home lives and leave at home. My husband is a walking time bomb for massive heart attach and/or stroke. He has gone thru 23 cath’s and has a total of 38 stints. It all took a total of 3 1/2 years and I only missed one day. He has good days and bad days. We both just keep going and thankful for the morning, god gave him one more day.

      Going thru a diffucult time health/or any other stuff going on in our personal lives is difficult enough, then to add a another factor, how it’s affecting my job and performance. Sometimes an employer needs to be compassionate so we can be our best. And we at the same time need to be the best we can be and not play on the company’s compassion. And if they have no compassion now they never had it anyway. Sometimes, an employer needs to see his employees as human. Not perfect, not always able to make the right choices. If fear is what drives us how are we to be the best we can be? I speak my mind and have the rep of telling the truth when asked. There have been times when the truth is not what they want to hear. It becomes a double edge sword. So, I try hard to say nothing and keep a log of things that go on, not to rat on anyone but when I become a target for what I call the misfortune, I am ready.

      I work hard everyday to have a good day and a smile for someone else goes a long way. I’m not a trouble maker and my mad-ow is “Never start a war you can’t win”.

      I totally agree that honesty, integrity and a huge thought of knowing right and wrong will go along way. But there are very few people who think like that.

      I hope that no one has to compromise who they are or what their about for any company, for just the sake of the company. Hang in there and stay focused on what’s important and hopefully the right person will see it

      My company stresses, team work, open communication, doors open anytime and so on…..The fact is if there is nothing for the company to gain I find more than most, you can have a great perspective and give 100 percent and at the end of the day we’re asking ourselves why.

      • Aaa

        Sorry to hear your story darling.

        Me too , i used to have pretty much similar condition and story and opinion as yours.

        Fortunately, as days goes by, i got back stand up on my own feet after been thrembling deeply inside for quite a long time.

        I just want to say, we just have to accept that it is a real life. that is how life is meant to be. Shit does happen to everybody, that sometimes we cannot avoid. 

        just as science does not always go along with religy, career / job does not always go along with personal life. that is what its called professionalism and strong when we can overcome those. nobody says it easy. and dont ever forget, ur not alone :) everybody been there, in all different types.

        i think whatever aspects in life, and in whatever scale, everybody gotta sacrifice for something in their life. life is all about options. sometimes a real tough ones. thats what makes us getting stronger and learn more as we get mature and older. whatever options u choose, make sure its weigh more to lose the other one.

        just find a job / work / activity that u enjoy or passionate the most, so that u can stop asking why why why , and does not take you anywhere except depression.

        Best of luck hunny :)

  • http://robinferianto.com/ robb

    point #3, sometimes what's inside your mind just doesn't fit it.
    so u might wanna keep it to yourself occasionally.

  • http://robinferianto.com/ robb

    point #3, sometimes what’s inside your mind just doesn’t fit it.
    so u might wanna keep it to yourself occasionally.

  • http://www.classesandcareers.com/colleges/state_district-of-columbia/degrees_social-sciences/courses_behavioral-science/programs_organizational-security-management Online Colleges

    Great tips. I think # 8 is very important because if you don't know something don't pretend like you do ask questions or do research until you figure it out. I like the point you made about sharing what you learned with others as well; if it helped you out most likely it'll help someone else out.

  • http://www.classesandcareers.com/colleges/state_district-of-columbia/degrees_social-sciences/courses_behavioral-science/programs_organizational-security-management Online Colleges

    Great tips. I think # 8 is very important because if you don’t know something don’t pretend like you do ask questions or do research until you figure it out. I like the point you made about sharing what you learned with others as well; if it helped you out most likely it’ll help someone else out.

  • cillment

    This is one of the greatest articles I have ever read. I'm 25 and a businessman. You don't learn this kind of stuff at school but by experience. OR, reading this article and learn from such a great person. Nice article!

  • Anonymous

    This is one of the greatest articles I have ever read. I’m 25 and a businessman. You don’t learn this kind of stuff at school but by experience. OR, reading this article and learn from such a great person. Nice article!

  • daman1

    This was exactly what i needed. With a new boss, and trying to settle into the job I was scared of not being myself and trying to hard. THANK YOU for this great reminder =)

  • daman1

    This was exactly what i needed. With a new boss, and trying to settle into the job I was scared of not being myself and trying to hard. THANK YOU for this great reminder =)

  • Mehr

    Great post!! =)

    “Give people more than they expect” reminds me of my Teacher's trademark statement: “Delight the other person! Give him/her sumthing unasked for” :)

    “Look stuff up” & “do it with a touch of you” are also great suggestions :)

  • Mehr

    Great post!! =)

    “Give people more than they expect” reminds me of my Teacher’s trademark statement: “Delight the other person! Give him/her sumthing unasked for” :)

    “Look stuff up” & “do it with a touch of you” are also great suggestions :)

  • surabhi

    that was a great article!! thank you so much!! i will try to implement this…and the best part is im already feeling good about it

  • surabhi

    that was a great article!! thank you so much!! i will try to implement this…and the best part is im already feeling good about it

  • Kayla

    Wow, this is a really great post. I'm going to print it off and randomly “forget it” in some of my classes, let other people find it.

  • Kayla

    Wow, this is a really great post. I’m going to print it off and randomly “forget it” in some of my classes, let other people find it.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Thanks Kayla – this was a much nicer comment than the string of obscenities I got earlier today. :)

  • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

    Thanks Kayla – this was a much nicer comment than the string of obscenities I got earlier today. :)

  • giuliana

    really inspirational! now i'll have more confidence going into my internship

  • giuliana

    really inspirational! now i’ll have more confidence going into my internship

  • joan

    thanks a million sir!these tips will help me a long from here.

  • joan

    thanks a million sir!these tips will help me a long from here.

  • joan

    thanks a million sir!these tips will help me a long from here.

  • Smit

    I have something to say: and I am not showing off

    I am 23 years old and I was that sort of person. And guess what, because I was helping others I became a joke, simply because they started to take advantages of me.

    Every single work I do I alwayus mention as a team, but other mention as theirs. and if that was not enough I got sack and they still work at that fucking company.

    Since then I started to be the jerk guy and now I am more successfull then when I was the nice person, actualyl I call it naive and retardad now.

    fuck the real world

    • Guest

      I’m so sorry you gave up being the nice guy and took the easy way out. Too bad your vocabulary is on such a low level too! One can never go wrong with being nice. Some times it takes tenacity and learning to set healthy boundaries.

      • Murtaza

        Hey dude!

        I am agree with Mr Smit, I read this ” intelligents are those who knows how to hide thier resources” on a topic

    • Thulo Matli

      thanks a lot with your advice. I really appreciate it…………………………………Bob Matli

    • Guest2

      I strongly believe with you. That is exactly what happen to me. now people see nice = innocent = stupid. FACT.

    • Real Estate Mogul who Cares

      I own a large company and even though being a jerk will get you so far, it will either haunt you or taint your image when you really matter and have your own business.  Doing the right thing when no one is looking and believing in karma has done amazing things for me.    I find it interesting you say you are 23.  When you grow older the world shrinks considerably, being a jerk can signifigantly bite you in the ass later when an industry leader you fired…remembers.

    • lili

      ur rite smith ino what ur saying it hapnz al da time true dat z da real world but neva mind all u need to do z just watch and c how long it takes doz guyz to keep up there inda othre company and watch ur self carefully what do u kol success how do u feel abot urself uget what imean keep doing good and b confident enough to take the lead and dont b ashamed to show them u did it good luk ino t sucks

  • Smit

    I have something to say: and I am not showing off

    I am 23 years old and I was that sort of person. And guess what, because I was helping others I became a joke, simply because they started to take advantages of me.

    Every single work I do I alwayus mention as a team, but other mention as theirs. and if that was not enough I got sack and they still work at that fucking company.

    Since then I started to be the jerk guy and now I am more successfull then when I was the nice person, actualyl I call it naive and retardad now.

    fuck the real world

  • Antonio Carvalho

    It’s almost 1:00AM and I’m sleeping in the chair but couldn’t leave for my bed before posting a thank you note for such a great article. Please don’t forget your target audience: people who are willing to grow and make a better reality for themselves and others. Forget the trolls, they are there just to scare the children.

    Antonio Carvalho

  • Antonio Carvalho

    It's almost 1:00AM and I'm sleeping in the chair but couldn't leave for my bed before posting a thank you note for such a great article. Please don't forget your target audience: people who are willing to grow and make a better reality for themselves and others. Forget the trolls, they are there just to scare the children.

    Antonio Carvalho

  • Mstvl

    I do it all above and got DEMOTED cause this last year I had personal tragedy-6yrs means jackshit to employers – I had medical issues and had to miss work- so all above does not pay-off!! especially a company family owned then tries to micro manage – lies, accusations, sure I missed I was ill but they knew and death in family, no meeting just demotion and back on time clock! tightwads! no one else in history has been demoted, maybe change of position due to layoff but never demoted due to illness… Nothing was behind nor a big issue, they made one- all above i have done for decades but bottomline an employer does not care about anyone but themselves period. I never got paid extra for overtime, or working thru lunch -

  • tee

    I do it all above and got DEMOTED cause this last year I had personal tragedy-6yrs means jackshit to employers – I had medical issues and had to miss work- so all above does not pay-off!! especially a company family owned then tries to micro manage – lies, accusations, sure I missed I was ill but they knew and death in family, no meeting just demotion and back on time clock! tightwads! no one else in history has been demoted, maybe change of position due to layoff but never demoted due to illness… Nothing was behind nor a big issue, they made one- all above i have done for decades but bottomline an employer does not care about anyone but themselves period. I never got paid extra for overtime, or working thru lunch -

    • Jncc1993

      Tee – you are missing the point here. The reason to apply these things is to make YOU a better person. Regarding what happened to you at your company sounds more like some major HR violations which are a completely different subject. If an environment is that toxic then it perhaps it was time for a change. Too bad it was forced rather than your choice. Seems you feel more like a victim at this point.

  • Mstvl

    I do it all above and got DEMOTED cause this last year I had personal tragedy-6yrs means jackshit to employers – I had medical issues and had to miss work- so all above does not pay-off!! especially a company family owned then tries to micro manage – lies, accusations, sure I missed I was ill but they knew and death in family, no meeting just demotion and back on time clock! tightwads! no one else in history has been demoted, maybe change of position due to layoff but never demoted due to illness… Nothing was behind nor a big issue, they made one- all above i have done for decades but bottomline an employer does not care about anyone but themselves period. I never got paid extra for overtime, or working thru lunch -

  • tee

    I do it all above and got DEMOTED cause this last year I had personal tragedy-6yrs means jackshit to employers – I had medical issues and had to miss work- so all above does not pay-off!! especially a company family owned then tries to micro manage – lies, accusations, sure I missed I was ill but they knew and death in family, no meeting just demotion and back on time clock! tightwads! no one else in history has been demoted, maybe change of position due to layoff but never demoted due to illness… Nothing was behind nor a big issue, they made one- all above i have done for decades but bottomline an employer does not care about anyone but themselves period. I never got paid extra for overtime, or working thru lunch -

  • Bdhardy

    Great article. I whole-heartedly agree. Now, if I could just get this across to my teenaged son. :)

  • Bdhardy

    Great article. I whole-heartedly agree. Now, if I could just get this across to my teenaged son. :)

  • Jncc1993

    Tee – you are missing the point here. The reason to apply these things is to make YOU a better person. Regarding what happened to you at your company sounds more like some major HR violations which are a completely different subject. If an environment is that toxic then it perhaps it was time for a change. Too bad it was forced rather than your choice. Seems you feel more like a victim at this point.

  • Abel Candelaria

    i like to be friend of who wrote this., i have a lot of question and i know he can answer
    sorry for my grammar, im not too good at english

    • Belvita_sand

      yah ryt..

  • Abel Candelaria

    i like to be friend of who wrote this., i have a lot of question and i know he can answer
    sorry for my grammar, im not too good at english

  • Ollie

    I completely approve. And it made my day to realise I’m on the best way to develop those skills you wrote about.
    You might know that Gandhi said “Be the change you want to see in the world”. Im happy that the internet allows me to brag shamelesly about how proud I am to be liked by my environment for those skills. =)
    I sincerely hope that people read this and everybody in general starts to be more like that.

    Best wishes and regards from Germany!

  • Ollie

    I completely approve. And it made my day to realise I'm on the best way to develop those skills you wrote about.

    You might know that Gandhi said “Be the change you want to see in the world”. Im happy that the internet allows me to brag shamelesly about how proud I am to be liked by my environment for those skills. =)

    I sincerely hope that people read this and everybody in general starts to be more like that.

    Best wishes and regards from Germany!

  • Whisper

    I agree with you 100 percent. I work for a large company having offices here in the US and in over seas. It's hard sometimes when you feel as though your on the very bottom of the totem pole. I work with 15 other men and the only women on my shift. They are a great bunch of guys, and if any of us need help during any given day they are right there. On the other hand if I need help they are less reluctant to offer help because of fear they aren't suppose too.

    It's hard sometimes to take our home lives and leave at home. My husband is a walking time bomb for massive heart attach and/or stroke. He has gone thru 23 cath's and has a total of 38 stints. It all took a total of 3 1/2 years and I only missed one day. He has good days and bad days. We both just keep going and thankful for the morning, god gave him one more day.

    Going thru a diffucult time health/or any other stuff going on in our personal lives is difficult enough, then to add a another factor, how it's affecting my job and performance. Sometimes an employer needs to be compassionate so we can be our best. And we at the same time need to be the best we can be and not play on the company's compassion. And if they have no compassion now they never had it anyway. Sometimes, an employer needs to see his employees as human. Not perfect, not always able to make the right choices. If fear is what drives us how are we to be the best we can be? I speak my mind and have the rep of telling the truth when asked. There have been times when the truth is not what they want to hear. It becomes a double edge sword. So, I try hard to say nothing and keep a log of things that go on, not to rat on anyone but when I become a target for what I call the misfortune, I am ready.

    I work hard everyday to have a good day and a smile for someone else goes a long way. I'm not a trouble maker and my mad-ow is “Never start a war you can't win”.

    I totally agree that honesty, integrity and a huge thought of knowing right and wrong will go along way. But there are very few people who think like that.

    I hope that no one has to compromise who they are or what their about for any company, for just the sake of the company. Hang in there and stay focused on what's important and hopefully the right person will see it

    My company stresses, team work, open communication, doors open anytime and so on…..The fact is if there is nothing for the company to gain I find more than most, you can have a great perspective and give 100 percent and at the end of the day we're asking ourselves why.

  • Sec2pres

    THANK YOU for sharing this valuable information! Great suggestions. If we all could be better people, our work places and world would be a better place to live. I’ve had numerous jobs and, without a doubt, my challenges on every one of them is with “people.” Well, the common denominator is me. I’d have to add the following: Even while being the best person one can be, don’t expect others to respond in a positive manner. The hardest part of relationships is giving grace to others, turning the other cheek, and being kind and gracious even when the other person doesn’t deserve it or is very rude back. Now, this is where the rubber meets the road. Doing all of these things without expecting anything in return. And, as you mentioned, the respect comes in time without fail! So true!

  • blanch

    I must say i really want to thank you for shareing this wonderful advice, i really appreciate, it will help me now to improve more i wish every one could be nice like you thanks.

  • guest

    Thanks for this. I’m a 41 year old mother of three who has been out of the office for 14 years. (My husband and I have had our own business.) I just started a new job as a lawyer in a professional office and I’m experiencing severe culture shock. Thank you for reminding me of the things I used to know and introducing me to some new ideas. It’s not easy to start over after so long and I can use all the help I can get.

    • http://ItStartsWith.Us Nate St. Pierre

      Great to hear that – and good luck at the new job!

  • Asdahbh

    One thing missing, and I think it’s the most important.

    Be Good at your job.

    These things are all great, but without that key factor, your just another nice guy they won’t fire, not that nice guy they’ll promote.

  • Defel4

    It was very educative and informative.

  • Skippy4red

    Umm no offense or anything but most of those are all stupid. We all know that the only thing boss’s crave is when we go way above and behond and ‘suck up’ to them. Duh! :)

  • marino

    IM SURE UR A GREAT PERSON.. I WANNA BE U.. -ZAM

  • Belvita_sand

    You are such a great person.. I wanna be like you.. I want to apply your idea in my new job.. Thank you for such a wonderful tips.. I want to be a better person.. – zam marino

  • Jake

    I am 14 and am going to try to get a job in the next few days, this has really prepared me and shown me what it takes to be a truly sucessful employee. Thanks alot and i am really nervous… I hope you make more stuff like is online. Again thanks alot!

  • ally

    wooooowwwww the most amazing article i have read……….i like that bit where you said do whatever you want to do but with a bit touch of YOU….it was really helpful.

  • Mounaberrada

    Very true and all the points are pretty much valid.

  • Jckisilva

    You got a brownie for someone during a presentation? Omigosh, let me get you an award asap. You make yourself sound ridiculous in this article.

  • Alice Mack

    honesty, positivity and staying true to yourself -  excellent advice for many of life’s journeys. thanks nate!

  • Buddhasnakeman

    You’re very gay

  • Barbara

    Hey Nate! Things are rough at work. I’ve tried for the past two years to work on my communication skills with my co-workers and my boss, but it seems that while things have improved in a few places, the overall problem still exists; my boss does not like me and that dislike spills out in front of other workers. To maintain an allegiance with our boss, several of my co-workers join in. I’m not perfect, nor do I claim to be. I’m young at twenty two years old, but I have been with this company for well over two years and while I’m beginning to earn respect with the people on the same level of authority, it seems to be gone the instant my boss appears. I have tried *respectfully* discussing my concerns with her in private and throughout the talk, I felt most of what she had to say was very condescending. I don’t mean to whine, I just feel very defeated and wonder if a change in environment would be beneficial or if in finding another job, I would just be running away from my problems. Your article had some of the best advice I have read thus far on this topic and I would be interested to hear what recommendations you might give for my current situation.

    Much Thanks,
    Barb

    • guest

      as long as your a good worker you have nothing to worry about… just be honest and let your boss know how you feel in a genuine way… if that does not work  hunt for a new job

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kuttan-Mon-S/100001156002598 Kuttan Mon S

    Well done. This was something i want to write in my blogs. almost half of this came across my mind too . Well done and thanks

  • karthik

    pls use the english grammer esily cause i am tamil medium student,this is my request only…….

  • Ngoga David

    Thank you for the teachings, i hope they will help me to improve my being! but i think it could have been better if you had added that for those that trust in God to pray to him because he is the one that can help them put into action the teachings you gave us.

    Thank you so much

  • rinesh

    Thank you very much for these comments. I have learnt a lot after reading it.

    Rinesh Patel

  • Guest2

    i agree with some points, and yes its really great things to do, since i do believe in karma and God.

    however it doesnt really apply in most cases on some work fields. 

    from my point of view as i get mature, life is tough, time runs very fast, and world is no more of a ‘kindergarten playground’ , its more of a ‘kickboxing ring’ . either u win, or u lose, without any harm intention to knocked others down, but merely to keep standing up for what we truly deserves.

    being a real person apparently does not always work that well in super highly competitive edge in real world. unless we are talking about religious point of view, that is a total different point of view.

    in my opinion, most people who searched, find and actually read this page ,due to the title,  merely were people who care, desperate, or maybe hopeless of their job matters and intend to gain their career to the next level. 

    i personally strongly agree with some points, but some of the rests actually will only get them left behind instead of going forward.

    thanks anyways for the inspiring articles ! 

    Have a great day!
    :)

    • Needingfreedom

      I am twice the age of some of the those sharing here, and I have to observe that life just is not that simple. In other words, good karma does not necessarily lead to good darma. Sometimes you just don’t have that much control over things. I’ve had my share of bad bosses. For example, I worked in an office of about 20, and we had weekly meetings. At one meeting, the director asked for a volunteer to step forward to take charge of a new project. I volunteered, and she responded by presenting me at the meeting in front of all of my co-workers with a dum dum sucker – for being such a dum dum and for being a suck up (her words). Complete shocked silence from the group. I stayed a few more months and then moved on. The boss I have now is a neurotic sadistic faker who has had incredible luck in picking bosses who like tall blond women regardless of how incompetent they are, And I was on her good side for years (and most people don’t stay that long), and I just can’t take the incompetence any longer. So now, I am her scapegoat. Luckily, I have had some allies on my side, but the environment is still miserable. Maybe I’m just getting too old and too impatient to work for someone else.

  • Guest2

    I would rather suggest to be ‘smart’ rather than to be ‘kind’ . if we are talking about working field and impressing boss.

    sometimes kindness simply equal as foolishness for some people.

  • Vishal

    Its amazing! Thanks for such a wonderful article.

  • Shahfaisal

         Shah   Faisal
    Good I will try at least few of them.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100003832168830 Henry David

    just be polite, and practice hard! is the best way.For more information about Jewelry and Watches products antonioboutique website.

  • Thangakodiarasan

    I like this and i will to.

  • yogitha

    thank u hope i try tto work on
     

  • Asif Billa

    Hi!!! Thanks 4 d info..its really nice..I totally agree with u..
    I hope I ca rectify my problems and can serve me better to my Colleagues, Boss, friends, strangers…
    Please let me know if I can do anything for U..Thanks again.. :)

  • Balubagdi

     I would love to apply it in my day to day life .. thanks a lot ….

  • Mou

    I have question. How do u suppose you work with these tips when you know most of your co-workers know more about lodging the knife behind your neck than doing their own thing? 

  • Anonymous

    hello

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000314895641 Effie L. Young

    Thank you for taking the time to put these tips together.  I actually do most of these without even thinking about it.  Now I understand why some people seem to just like me out of the clear blue sky!  LOL.  Anyway I have an interview for a promotion and you have reminded me of some things I can talk about.  Also, I don’t care if you make money from the book you recommended, I guess I’m lazy and would have appreciated just clicking the link.  Have a great day!

  • Qsana2013

    i hope it  will help me a lot in my future. 

  • Susan Spalding

    Thank you for this outstanding article!  It truly represents my approach to people in all aspects of my life.

  • Sergembuyi

    May God really bless you, you are the best!

  • http://twitter.com/theirmind theirmind

    My advantage is that reverse thinking. (Most of my friends say so)

  • http://www.escapingdodge.com/ Ree Klein

    Wow, that was an awesome post…so good that I wish I had written it!

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